Dear victims of sexual assault…

Dear victims of sexual assault,


It is not your fault… and you are more than just another victim.


You did nothing wrong. You did not ask for this; you did not give your consent. Your shirt wasn’t too tight and your skirt wasn’t too short. Your boobs aren’t too big and you aren’t showing too much cleavage. You’re confused and disgusted. I understand how you feel and want to let you know that you are not alone. It is okay to be scared, and it’s okay to want to forget. But it is not okay to give up on yourself, you need to live your life again. Lift your head up and reclaim yourself. Show the world what you are made of, and that nothing can stop you from shining in this cruel and ruthless world.


This nauseating feeling in the pit of your stomach will subside and your heartache will pass. Allow yourself to be loved, you deserve it. Allow others to get close again, not everyone has bad intentions like they did. Put yourself out there again, go on dates and let people see the real you; let them see the beautiful person you’ve been hiding inside you this whole time. You’re not some used and worn out piece of furniture that’s been tossed out. You are this fire, this spark that just needs a little help to shine brighter than ever.


Let yourself heal because healing means the damage no longer controls you. Get out of bed and go do what you love. Make mistakes. Take risks, life is all about taking risks; without them you’re not living, you’re just surviving. Don’t judge yourself by what others have done to you. Your rape does not define you. This moment does not define you. You define you. Don’t let your struggle become your identity. Stop being a victim, and own it. You are not a victim; you are a survivor.


With all my love and support,



Michelle Ramos


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